If you’re looking for love, but it keeps evading you, you might be doing it wrong. That’s not me telling you that: it’s science. A host of studies have shown that the typical ways we try to date and mate don’t always have the results we want.
That’s probably because our expectations about everything from the best way to meet someone to what keeps a relationship alive are based on a hotchpotch of gut instinct, guessing, and stuff we saw in Sandra Bullock movies (step away from the guy in the coma). Here are five actual evidence-based reasons to challenge your assumptions and change the way you date so you can find the relationship of your dreams (or at least stop making the same mistakes)…
Online daters are more likely to break up
Sorry! It’s easier and less stressful to swipe your way to a potential partner and most of us would rather message someone on a dating site than give our phone number to a stranger. But if you’re ruling out real life meet cutes, you could be missing out on lasting love. A study from the University of Michigan found that couples who meet online are less likely to stay together, and eHarmony’s own research shows that when couples do make it last, they’re less likely to get married or live together, probably because dating sites give the impression there are hundreds of thousands of potential perfect matches out there. (Yeah. Not so much.)